Take a breath, stop and think, is it worth destroying so many lives so you can step in and take the rewards after someone else does the hard work. Think about what you want in a relationship. I've been doing it wrong. My husband is a surgical oncologist. On the bright side, it makes our time together more valuable. Pay for the first few dates.
That being said, there are some facets of the religion that you should be aware of that will influence how she approaches both you and the relationship. I would need to ask my husband again. I believe that there will be a lot more mercy than justice being dished out at the judgment. When I acquired a personal testimony of the gospel as a teen, and made my own decisions regarding my faith, I felt very alone.
Mormons have a well-known code of health, called the Word of Wisdom. But you are setting yourself up to leave the Church more easily, and even if you agree the children will be raised Mormon, your kids will likely not continue to participate in the Church as adults. It won't be easy with the lower salary but it will be better than the alternative. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you. But actions speak louder than words. I had many, many friends who moved this quickly during courtship, too. In the end, God is a just God. Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree.
My husband is midway throug his first year of cardiology fellowship and we have been having a tough time lately. Plan on rolling your eyes A LOT at family get torturers together. Mormon decried it was all a lie, an anti mormon lie. I loved being single, and I love dating him now, but demanding rotations are giving me an idea of what his surgical residency will be like except that I know it will be x I have spent hours and hours and hours on blogs like these, trying to understand if it will be worth it-- worth the very real possibility of losing my identity, of boxing myself in career-wise, of never being in control of where I live, of a thousand lonely nights. I really like this girl but, is Mormonism so toxic that I should just sever the relationship before it gets serious. Unless you convert she won't marry you, plain and simple. I love my husband so much, but 40 years of loneliness has been more than difficult. Dress nicely, as the girl will appreciate the effort put into looking good for her, and encourage her to do the same. My wife is living proof that they CAN be worth it. He wanted our kids exposed to Christianity for intellectual reasons and likes the community.
